Book about black women dating outside their race
I had a phone conversation recently with a friend of mine who is trying to get back out there and date; but she’s growing despondent due to the lack of quality ‘brothers’ out there.In the interest of privacy, I’ll name my friend Marcia.By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren’t any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. “In short,” Folan says, “some black women choose to demonize all white men rather than look objectively at the facts of our modern times, which are these: Some men, whatever their race, are bad for us. Some men, whatever their race, are good for us.” Lisa Vazquez agrees emphatically.She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. “Divestment is an imperative of our self-preservation as black women,” says Vazquez, who writes at blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com, one of many blogs opining on the subject.“Black people are not a monolith, and one voice is a myth, and yet some black folks still seem certain that they know who has ‘stayed black’ and who has ‘sold out,’ ” Folan says.Being perceived by other blacks as a sellout is No.
Spencer, 44, has traced her ancestry and is proud of her heritage, she says.You look across the table and the person you are talking to is not a white person or a black person, but simply a person.People who date and marry across cultures often describe this feeling.So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one “good” black man to come along and sweep them off their feet. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas, according to a 2008 population survey by the U. It’s Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman.